Carolyn McCulley has a good practical article for singles who have married friends who are now starting to have children. Since I’m more sensitive to this issue now, being an expecting mother with friends across the board who are single, married, or married with children, I read it with interest. I think sometimes even married women who have friends who become pregnant often struggle with the same thoughts: Will our friendship be the same? Will she only hang out with other moms now? How will I relate? etc. I certainly don’t expect my friendships with my single gal-friends to change because I’m having a little one! But Carolyn has some good thoughts on this subject.
I’m trying to think back to see if I struggled with any of these issues when my girlfriends had babies. I’d say mostly no, but I think I did struggle sometimes with certain friends who I perceived as never talking about anything else except the baby. I was married at the time and didn’t struggle with thinking our friendship would would decline, but I just got tired of hearing about it! Perhaps that just speaks to my lack of listening ability, but I because of that experience I try to keep that in mind when I talk to others.
I’m interested in reading all of your perspectives on this from whatever angle, married or single, childless or with a family full of kids!
Check out the article here.